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When You Decide To Quit Your Job

The decision to quit a job is significant and often daunting. Over the years, I have had many clients wrestle with this choice, and I want to share some insights to help guide you through this process. Whether you are feeling unfulfilled, stressed, or simply ready for a change, it is essential to approach this transition with careful thought and preparation.


I also want to normalize quitting your job. Speaking directly to millennials and younger, our parents' and grandparents’ generations often stayed with the same company or job for years and years. At the same time, most people nowadays change jobs or companies every few years. This cultural shift, although common, may contrast with the messages and lessons you were taught as a child. As you continue discovering new things about yourself, certain work cultures, environments, personalities, etc., may not serve you anymore. Give yourself the permission to explore other opportunities in these moments.


The first step is to deeply understand why you want to quit your job. Are you experiencing burnout? Is there a lack of growth opportunities? Are you facing toxic work conditions? Clarifying your reasons will help you make an informed decision and ensure you are not acting impulsively. It could be helpful to write down the areas you appreciate about your job versus those that bring up frustration. Although challenging, consider your emotions throughout and after the workday and more logistical pieces like managerial styles or team communication.


If your job impacts your life so negatively that you are considering leaving without another job, your current financial standings are crucial to explore. Assess your savings, current expenses, and any debts. Create a budget that outlines how long you can sustain yourself without a steady income. It is also wise to explore potential income sources, like part-time work or freelance opportunities, that can bridge the gap while you transition.


However, if you can stay within your current role while job hunting, you may not have to worry about the immediate financial implications of quitting your job. I recognize job hunting can feel like another job, so check in with yourself to manage the stress and time management of working while also applying and interviewing for new positions. You may need to reevaluate how you structure your days during this period.


This can also be a time to reflect on your long-term career goals. What do you want to achieve professionally? How does your current job align or misalign with these goals?


Quitting should be a step towards something, not just away from your current situation. Consider exploring other career paths, further education, or developing new skills that can open doors to opportunities you are passionate about.


Once you decide to quit, planning your exit strategically is important. Here are some key steps:


- Notice Period: Review your employment contract for the required notice period. You may need references in the future from this employer, so it will serve you best to leave on good terms.


- Transition Plan: Prepare a transition plan to ensure a smooth handover of your responsibilities. This shows professionalism and respect for your colleagues. Even if you leave this job due to a toxic workplace environment, consider those you are leaving behind in that same environment.


- Exit Interview: Be prepared for an exit interview. This is your chance to provide constructive feedback about your experience. This could be a cathartic experience to share how you feel about certain aspects of the job that could be changed or improved. While the company wants this information for themselves, consider the felt experience of being able to honor your truth in this workplace.


Quitting a job can be emotionally challenging. You might experience a range of emotions, from relief and excitement to anxiety and uncertainty. It is essential to acknowledge these feelings and find healthy ways to cope. Here are some ideas to consider during this transitionary time:


- Share your thoughts and feelings with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. They can provide support and perspective. Sometimes, we can feel isolated within a job, and it can be difficult to express the dynamics occurring within a workplace. Letting others see this part of your life can validate your experiences and feelings.


- Prioritize self-care activities that help you relax and recharge. This could be exercise, meditation, or hobbies. Additionally, with our current work-from-home lifestyle for many, you may need to find more separation between work and the rest of your life. This could include different self-care practices, like going for a walk before or after your work day to imitate commuting.


- Try to minimize workplace gossip and distractions during this time. While on the one hand, it may feel nice to connect with co-workers through venting, on the other, there is a fine line between stewing in negativity and finding relief in commonality.


Leaving a job is the beginning of a new chapter. Embrace the uncertainty and possibilities that lie ahead. Stay open to new experiences and be proactive in seeking opportunities that align with your passions and skills. This brave step can lead to personal an professional growth.


You may feel limited based on your experience. However, so many skills are transferable. Do not limit yourself. Quitting your job can mean different things to different people, so try not to compare your journey to anyone else’s. Take it one step at a time. If you’re contemplating this significant change, know you are not alone. Remember, it is normal to seek support during this transition. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your feelings, gain clarity, and develop a plan that aligns with your values and aspirations.

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